New Series for 2018!
To kick off my first new series for 2018 once a month we will have a Wedding Wednesday to highlight some key things to help with planning a wedding and things leading up to the big day as well as gift ideas and different bridal formalities!
Last year I had the opportunity to coordinate my first wedding and as busy as it was I learned so much and was pleased that at the end of the night everything went as smoothly as could have been asked for! My bride and groom were happily married and nothing burned to the ground! That’s pretty good in my book!
This year I have one wedding set already that I am very excited for the simplistic backyard wedding among the bride and groom’s close family and friends! I am very excited to add another day of coordinating under my belt!
One thing I really can’t emphasize enough is the fact that I am by no means a professional wedding planner! I am a day of amateur coordinator. I like to think of myself as the person that will take all of you hard work, planning and vision and make it a reality! I also like to do some amateur photography on the side but that’s for an entirely different post!
My goal is to help my friends have the most magical and amazing day because there is no need to have stress on a day that is supposed to be happy and full of so much love!
So you just got engaged! It’s exciting, it’s a rush, it’s an amazing and happy time!
Then come all the questions…when, where, how many people, what colors, who do you have for this, that, and the other….it’s enough to make you want to pull your hair out!!
I know I would (and almost did) !
But I want to let you know it’s ok to put those things off for a short period of time! Enjoy being engaged and the short time this will be compared to the life time you are about to spend together with your significant other! Just know you don’t have to have it all figured out right away! It’s practically impossible!
So for our first Wedding Wednesday here are 5 important items to take care of right out of the gate.
Probably one of the most important parts to planning and finding out how your planning experience is going to be is by picking a date. By picking a date this give you an idea of a time frame for planning and can help you structure your to-do lists so they become to-done lists and the big day is a breeze! The other thing to think about when picking a date is when you want your anniversary to be every year. As strange as it might sound picking certain times of the year as well as avoiding certain times of the year should be considered by both you and your future spouse to avoid anniversary conflicts. It might seem like the farthest thing from your mind but it really does help later on in the marriage.
2. Location, location, location.
Picking a location, venue, place, area, park, church, field, barn, hotel, meeting hall, space; where ever fits your fancy to have your ceremony and reception is also a key component to the planning process. Wedding venue’s tend to fill up quickly and often are booked out a year in advance, so if you are looking to plan a wedding in 6-12 months the options can become limited when if comes to picking a wedding venue, especially if you have your heart set on one particular venue. Picking a location also will play into the date option because once you pick a date you have to find the availability of the venue. Now location and date could always switch places for first and second in order of importance because it’s possible you have a date but it ends up that the venue doesn’t have that available but has something close to it. So these two items walk hand in hand.
Your might ask why this isn’t first. Well in my mind you budgets can be some what flexible for the pure fact that once you have the date and place the rest can all be added or subtracted as needed. For me the biggest parts of the budget need to be the money spent on a beautiful location and a photographer. The photos you take this day need a beautiful backdrop and will the most vivid memories you have from the very special day when you look back in 20 years. These are the memories you will hold on to for the rest of your life and the moments caught in time. There isn’t going to be a redo or a do over so having these amazing memories captured to last forever is in my opinion the most important part of the day. When it comes to flowers and dresses and catering and décor there are many DIY options and many simplistic options that can help to cut costs.
Photographers like venue’s book up quickly so finding the right one for you and making sure they are available for you big day is a challenge all on it’s own. But to me this is also one of the biggest things to really nail down. With a photographer you want to find someone’s work that you love as well as some one who you connect well with. Price point can also be a concern in this one. When I got married the one thing I really wanted was to look for someone who would give me either a disk or a jump drive of the photo’s that I could then print myself- this is usually considered rights to the images. This to me is worth the price because then you get to print the photos for anything you want! We added them to Christmas cards, thank you cards, social media and I was able to print my family photos at my own pace and at the sizes I wanted! I had the best photographer if I do say so myself who exceeded all of my expectations and now I have the best memories to look back on!
One of the final important things to nail down in the beginning is what kind of wedding you want. Do you want vintage, rustic, shabby chic, western, modern, theatrical, ethereal, fairytail, traditional? The list of options goes on and on! Picking something that represents you and your soon to be spouse is going to make the day that much more special. It also helps if you keep this idea in mind all along so that when you pick your venue and your photographer. By having your style planned out it makes the rest of the planning process much easier and helps to direct your focus to the different options that you want to make sure are apart of your big day! The style will also play into the colors you choose for your wedding so that it is complimentary to esthetic as a whole.
These are brief explanations for these 5 important and key things to thing about but it’s a place to start. I found these to be the most helpful for me when I went to plan my wedding two years ago and I hope you find these steps helpful for you in your beginning stages of planning! If you are a bride to be congratulations-it’s going to go by so quickly but it’s going to be so much fun!
Thanks for stopping by and keep an eye out for what might be up around the curve!