So many people I know loath the holiday that is
I used to be one of these people.
I thought that Valentines was a holiday spent with a significant other getting notes and chocolates and flowers and surprises and all of the lovey, dovey, gooey, mushy stuff we all see in the mass media. But the truth of the matter is that’s not realistic! We all want it to be and for some it might be but for a vast majority nothing is really how it looks on TV.
In my years of adolescents I always seemed to have this unrealistic expectation that my current crush would somehow know all I wanted was a single rose just to let me know they liked me. Or I thought maybe I would finally find Mr. Right. Each year I was disappointed to get cookies from and a card from my mom and brother! Some years it would crush me as I watched my friends and their boyfriends spend time and effort and a lot of money for our age to surprise and dote on each other. I just wanted what they had! Why couldn’t someone love me enough to do those special things for me!
Boy, if I could go back now and tell my tween/teenage self to be patient because there would come a time when I realized that I wouldn’t need the chocolates, the cards, the flowers, the stuffed animals, the cookies and that I had the best valentines in the world growing up!
In my adult life I have changed my out look on Valentines day (and all holiday’s for that matter). I have decided that it’s about celebrating the love I have for all of the people in my life! The material items aren’t the important part of day’s like today! The important thing is spending time with the ones I love even if it’s a simple phone call, a text or even just a few moments together in a day.
Being a wife, a daughter, a sister, a best friend…that is where the love in my life is! And I challenge everyone to look at Valentines day differently and remember that it’s not about just having a significant other! It’s about having the ones your closest to close to you!
It’s all a matter of perspective!
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